Fighting Temptation

Hi Diana,

I’m a 25-year-old Christian man who practices abstinence.  I face temptation all of the time, but I’ve been able to overcome it so far.  I am not a virgin, so I know what sex is all about… which is half the problem.

I have been having a hard time getting involved with women, because many women are pushing to have sex.  What do you think I should do about this??

Thanks,

Phil

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1 Comment

  1. David Powell says:
    February 4, 2011 at 7:05 am

    It can be difficult, I see your perspective, and I share it.

    I must say that it is tough some times, much more so than others. One gal really had it for me, but as I could not see it lasting or going to a certain point — she could — I had to say no. Why? Because if I wasn’t serious about dating her long term, and wasn’t into her that way, going that route with her and _then_ breaking off would have bene unbelievably heelish, at least to me, so it was much easier to step back, and break off later, for both of us.

    I really liked her as a friend and a human being but we had too much different to be compatable as a couple. Me really liking her was part of the reason I didn’t “take advantage” of the opportunity when I figured it wasn’t going to work out.

    Religion stuff is underrated in the world of relationships, by many columnists and such, but it is an absolute beast because if you are serious about it — or if your partner is — it transcends the physical and even the temporal state of life on earth. Pretty massive. So it is key to have that as an understanding with a dating partner or whatever before committing to a long term relationship.

    I have known people of both genders who have the approach of the guy who had that question, and I wish him the best. With luck he is a member of a church or community where he may find someone of a similar mindset, which often makes for solid partnership through life. This will make the belief he has and both of their lives very fulfilling indeed.

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